Coffee Talk
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Tuesday August 19, 2008
August 19, 2008

Whether you go with the "ghost" idea presented in an earlier comment, or have news of him pulling through in time for the Gift Opening (best gift of them all), I'm sure that Grandpa will be there in spirit. I'm sure that he's just as disappointed as everybody else that he could not attend. It'll be great to see Georgia again. It's been so long. She's the only supportive cast member who hasn't made a come back or frequent visits. I was suprised that you didn't offer little side trips into Phil's home life. Even Phil only got some air time when their parents had health issues. Realistic, but still a bit of a pity.

I'm looking very forward to seeing this wedding happen. Very sneaky of you to have both the kids marry old school chums. If you are still drawing, I hope April brings in somebody new.

this is my first time leaving a comment. Hope it's not too much. I've been reading your strips all of my life. Seriously. I'll be very sad when you finally decide to shelve the project, but you'll have deserved the break!

Janna C, Carvel AB


I am utterly horrifed at "uncle Phil's" putting words in the mouth of his severely aphasic dad, Liz's Grandpa Jim - and also that Elly, who recently spent time with her dad and experienced his extremely frustrating communication problems firsthand, seems to be buying it without question.

Jim's severe aphasia has been shown to have rendered him unable to communicate basic requests. He has less than a handful of spoken words; he can say "Yes" and "Boxcar", but cannot even shake his head to indicate "No". All of a sudden Phil is claiming that a practically non-verbal (and most likely heavily sedated) hospital patient has managed to convey a highly articulate wish that Elizabeth not be told about his heart attack on her wedding day? As if she won't notice that he - her "guest of honor" - isn't there, especially since his health dictated the date in the first place?

And then Phil says he and Georgia will be leaving the hospital to attend the wedding! He won't stay by his own critically ill father's bedside - that shocked me terribly too. I could not imagine leaving my parent's bedside under such circumstances, even if it were my own child's wedding day. When a person may be dying, all else becomes lower on the priority list.

I imagine April, who is the only one who visits her grandfather regularly, who brings his dog to visit too, and is particularly close to him, would be particularly upset and insulted that this was kept from her. Her older sister has more than enough "Forever Friend" bridal attendants to handle attending to the bride. Consistency in April's here-to-fore compassionate characterization would have her at least choosing to spend this time in the hospital with her Grandpa Jim instead of being at the wedding - given a choice at all.

Cerena, Bayview CA



Why am I not surprised you chose not to run my comment. I've only commented twice in the entire time you've had this forum and you've chosen not to run my words either time.

I'm glad a lot of other people told you what sort of stupid mistakes you have made, both with the hybred comic strip nonsense, which does NOT work, the idea that you can just start over and rewrite the entire story (Marvel comics did that so many times you can't even figure out which world the characters are in any more) and Grandpa Jim's heart attack on Liz's wedding.

These comments won't run either, which is fine.

Just as long as you are aware that for every person who pats you on the back and tells you what a great writer you are, there are 10 others who are disgusted and angry at you, and who won't be fans or followers after you freeze it in September.

Yes, it's your story but you put something like this out into the public, you wind people up to identify with the characters and count on them feeling like those characters are real people so they'll pay your bills buying the newspapers and other things that syndicate them. So if you weren't expecting a large amount of hatred for what you've been doing and have just done, you should have been.

Anyway, I'm personally finished with reading this strip. I'm sure there are a lot of others who are just as finished with it.

have a nice retirement.

Kelly, Texas


I'm confused. I know that Grandpa was getting better at communicating positive and negative opinions, however, having a heart attack on top of his condition and now being in the hospital on oxygen doesn't lend itself to an exchange detailing that he 'doesn't want to spoil her day'. Maybe what he'd really like is to see his son and daughter before he passes and Iris is handling things her way?

Am I the only on who noticed how much the limosine driver looked like Grandpa Jim? Is it just my imagination, or is this a way of saying he's there in spirit?

I hadn't thought of the story line a lot of folks are predicting, i.e. the wedding's being moved to the hospital so Grandpa can see it. Instead, I had pictured a post-wedding scene where the family has received the news that Grandpa died just as Liz was walking down the aisle and Liz replying, "But he was there in the church. I saw him."

I don't have a problem with the story line of Grandpa's dying just as Liz is getting married. It would be nice if life always cooperated with our plans, but it doesn't. Liz moved the wedding up so Grandpa could be there; well, life, God, fate, whatever, had other plans.

I think Anthony is the best thing that could have happened to Elizabeth. He's a good, steady, reliable man - he just isn't perfect, which must be difficult for all the perfect people out there to accept. Whatever happens - wedding at the hospital, or Grandpa at the church in spirit, please don't let anything happen to stop or delay the wedding!! It's a perfect example of Better and Worse happening concurrently.

Peggy M, Blacksburg VA



Your ability to capture the drama and pathos of real life is remarkable. As a teenager I sang with a gospel group that performed in a lot of weddings. At the wedding of the sister of one of our group members, the bride's grandfather collapsed and died on the steps of the church, moments after the bride and groom and most of the guests had left for the reception. The bride's father proudly conducted all his wedding duties including a lovely toast, without ever letting on to the bride or the guests that his own father had just died.

Julie B, Los Angeles


The fact that Grandpa Jim had a heart attack just before Elizabeth's wedding really hit home with me. My mother-in-law had a heart attack just before my wedding and died shortly there after. We were told that she was sick, and my husband made the decision to go on with the wedding.

Lynda W, Alabama


For the wedding colors, Lynn, no matter what you chose, someone would complain LOL. I think the dress is lovely. I grimace when I see the child size tux though, my son had to do that and was miserable the whole time with the 'don't sit there' and 'put this napkin in like a bib'. Let's let young gents wear respectful washable pants, a matching polo shirt and a sunny smile instead.

Pamela, Fredericksburg, Virginia


Well, you've done it again. This wedding story is just in time for my family. I went to my oldest daughter's wedding shower yesterday in Milwaukee. She and her boyfriend have been together off and on for years. She only has one living grandparent, although I can see the other three sitting on their clouds and looking down. I can also see her "Farley" Rocky, a golden retriever running through the botanical garden where she will be married.
I, personally would never plan an outside wedding without a back up. Every time anything important happened in our lives it rained, snowed, sleeted, hailed or got too hot and humid.
I thought my father was going to die when he gave me away. He was shaking and wouldn't let go of my hand. Thank goodness he had close friends there to keep him together after the wedding. We excluded him from the receiving line so he wouldn't have to speak to the guests until he felt better.
I don't see what is so bad about Anthony? He's not the same geeky kid he was in high school. He seems to be a really good parent and I doubt he would give up on her or his daughter.
Thank you for the good and bad times, you have dealt with both in good fashion. Also, thanks for keeping Elly and John together.

Mary G, Wisconsin


I'm so saddened that Grandpa Jim had another heart attack on Elizabeth's wedding day. I would like to think that at least in the comics, you can have that 'wonderful day' every girl dreams of. I also disagree with the decision not to tell Elizabeth. If I walked up the aisle and realized that someone so special wasn't there, I would be upset with my family for not telling me. She's a grown up, she can handle it.

And today's strip, with the 'I hope it's a smooth ride' foreshadowing... I think there could have been so many other things to explore in the rush before the wedding.

I hope the rest of the wedding strips turn out better than it looks like they will.

Amy, SW Ohio



I am way behind, but I have been out of town and try to go through the comics and crosswords in order. Tonight I finally got to July 18th strip. I am just sending my appreciation that on the trip to the grocery store our heroine is toting a reusable bag, "The Green Sack" with the planet eart on it! What attention to details and a great way to point out NOT to use those horid plastic bags! I love the strip! It gives me hope. I love the subtle message that helps save our planet too! God Bless You!

Mary M, Harrisonburg, VA


Well, I'm one of the people not thrilled by the Anthony and Elizabeth union, but regardless I feel terrible that the day should have a cloud over it by Grandpa's heart attack.

My mother's father had a heart attack on the day of her wedding. Her brother walked her down the aisle. That day never gets mentioned without mention of her father (who died shortly after her wedding). She never thinks about her wedding without thinking about her Dad not being there.

Knowing someone who has gone through this experience I know that it mars the entire day. I'm sorry Elizabeth will go through that and that Grandpa will miss it.

Katie, Toronto


I wondered how you were going to tie up all the loose ends and I did expect the wedding to be part of it but Now I realize that the wedding is how all the loose ends will be tied up. A begining and and ending. I have been a fan for about 20+ years and I still run (ok not for the paper any more) for my computer looking for the next installment.

the only thing that saddens me is that grandpa is not going to see what elizabeth wanted him to see. I'm not sure not telling her is the right thing to do. I see this from a different persective.

My 95 year old grand father died about 6 months ago and It meant the world to me that I had a moment to say its ok to let go, everything will be ok. I did not know whether he heard me or not as he had been conscious off and on for more than a week or so. About 20 minutes later out of the corner of my eye, he looked at me and moved his hand in a child like way saying good bye. he died the next morning.

You have done a wonderful job in showing "reality" of a stroke survivor. Thanks

Robin D, Chicopee MA


This strip is the first thing that pops up on my desktop at work when I sign on in the morning: it is almost like checking in with my real family before starting the day! Thanks for characters that I can connect with, and storylines that are believable: I even have a crazy aunt who closely resembles Mira!

I am always amazed at the number of comments from nonwriters who think they can develop the story line of YOUR CHARACTERS better than you can! I am anxiously awaiting whatever poignant, moving, heart-warming or silly "this could have happened to anyone" development comes next in Elizabeth and Anthony's life.

I felt badly for you when the news broke about your "change in lifestyle", but I am happy to see you making some changes and moving on..way to go girl!

Deborah, Pasadena CA


Six months before my wedding I travelled back to England to visit my grandmother who we anticipated would be attending my wedding. She saw my dress in pictures, heard all the details of the wedding and groom (whom she had never met) and gave me her blessing. Throughout the visit she kept insisting she would not be there for the wedding and I kept telling her she was just being silly (she was healthy and active at 80+ years of age). Three weeks after my return, we received a phone call unexpectedly, informing us that she had died suddenly of heart failure. My parents and brother who were scheduled to go to visit her the following week were suddenly attending a funeral. I was devistated - she was my only remaining grandparent and had always believed that she would attend my wedding. We did however memorialize all of our grandparents at the beginning of our ceremony with a special ceremony and candle lighting and for that i am grateful. I would be sorry to see the str!
ip end with grandpa's death, especially on Elizabeth's wedding day, but as you have always written it true to life it is an unfortunate reality. Your strip has been an incredibly inspiring and educational resource for many people and as a health care professional I have often used or encouraged clients to use it as a resource and a source of enlightenment (and entertainment). I wish you all the best and thank-you for the gift of "For Better or For Worse".

Nicola, Regina SK


After reading about Grampa Jim's heart attack, I waited anxiously to hear the replies of other readers, and they didn't disappoint. There are readers who don't want Elizabeth and Anthony to marry, there are those that think the wedding should stop because he's sick, and there are those who are ecstatic that the wedding is going forward.

Congratulations to Lynn on writing such a cliff hanger ending. It's come down to 'will they' or 'won't they', but the story has already been written and only Lynn knows the answer. We just have to wait a couple of more weeks for it to unfold.

Lynn, your writing has been so true to life that you have caught us all up in the lives of the Pattersons. Why else would we all express our opinions so strongly on fictional people? We can all see ourselves reflected in one or more of the Patterson clan and we wish for them all the best in their lives. I only hope that we treat the people in our own lives with as much love that we show your characters.

I look forward to the continuing story for the next two weeks. I look forward to looking back as the stories are rerun.

All the best in your retirement. Thanks for what you have shared with us. It's been a part of our lives and will continue to be as we review your wonderful story.

Lori Y, Edmonton AB


I HAVE ALWAYS LOVED YOUR STRIP. BUT I AM EXTREMELY UPSET ABOUT GRANPA'S HEART ATTACK. COULDN'T THEY HAVE A TOTALLY HAPPY DAY. I KNOW ITS VERY TRUE TO LIFE, BUT THAT WAS NOT NECESSARY. ITS ALMOST AS BAD AS FARLEY AND MR. B. PLEASE DON'T HAVE HIM DIE.

Terry B, Mass


I'm loving the way each day a bit more of the journey to the altar enfolds. To those who think Elilzabeth is going to he stunted in her life when she marries, may I remind them that many women have marriages and careers. I'm sure if Elizabeth wanted to join a bowling league, Anthony would not object. She's very much her own person and she is not going to be tied down to a house and family when what she wants is that stability but also a life of her own, which she has always enjoyed.

Geri, NYC


I can't believe this! How could anyone, in any seriousness, imagine that it's more important that a wedding go forward than that a family be by the bedside of a loved one who may well be dying? Weddings can be rescheduled. Final goodbyes can't. How dare anyone suggest that it's right to keep this kind of information from the people who love Jim, which includes not only Liz but Michael and April as well? If Jim dies and they miss their last chance to see him, I hope they will distance themselves from the people who robbed them of it.

Em, BC


I am so THRILLED to read in the Seattle Times that you are going to continue drawing my favorite family. I have read your strip since inception and could not face a day without the Pattersons.

You have certainly made my day!

Best of luck to you, you deserve all the best in life.

Frannie, Seattle


Ok wow, I don't know how to write this or what to say. I have been and always will be a faithful reader of the FBorFW strip. I watched April grow up as well as grew up myself with Liz & Michael. I always felt a connection between Liz & I. When I read she was finally going to settle down with Anthony I was so happy knowing, since high school, they just belonged together. Then when the wedding was announced, my heart fluttered just like it did 4 years ago when I married my husband. I was so excited for Liz.

I married in 2004 to an amazingly wonderful man, to which my grandfather highly approved of. His comment to me after first meeting him was "Chris, don't mess this one up!! He's a keeper!!" Which I was basically estatic over. My grandfather and his opinions mean the world to me.

Unfortunately, I lost my grandfather in 2000 before wedding thought even arised. It was by far the WORST thing I have ever experienced in my entire life. I fell into a black hole and had trouble getting out of it, but the "Keeper" pulled me through that difficult time.

Grandpa was not able to attend my wedding. for the obvious reasons.. it killed me. He was on my mind all day. He was basically a second dad to us and longed to see his grandaughters married one day (there are only 2 girls, my sister and I)and it finally happened. Not only was he not there to attend it, but he was not there to see pictures or a video of the wedding.

I am sadden to see these turn of events..Jim so wanted to be at the wedding, and Liz wanted the same. A flood of feelings come back to me, I found myself crying as I read the strip over and over again in disbelief.

I hope Jim pulls through and can at least see pictures of the wedding. My grandfather and I were not that fortunate.

I miss my grandpa..And we all swear he was still at the wedding. When they served the main course, at my family table there was a extra plate of food that no one requested and no one knows how it got there.

We like to think it was Grandpa watching his youngest grandaughter enjoy her special day..

Christina B, Tampa FL


Let grandpa live and be truely a miracle and be all healed. It can happen you know. But if not, don't let him pass away on Liz's wedding day.

Wanda M, Wichita KS


Hmmmm...sit with my dad in his final hours or be among many at my young neice's wedding. No contest! Get back there, Phil. And go in peace, Jim. And thank you, Lynn. Contrary to what another bean spiller spilled, these ARE the Better, not Worse times. Jim has had a good life and good care. A date is a date. Why not remember your wedding date at the same time celebrate the life of your wonderful grandfather. My two bits er beans.

Kim, Redondo Beach CA


I have followed this comic strip from the beginning and I have never questioned Lynn's story lines. I have cried and laughed. Her comic strip family is so part of my heart. Yes...life sometimes throws you "curves" and Lynn treats them with respect.Life is so varied and you never know what is around the corner and I think she tells this so well and reminds us of this. Let's hope Grandpa will survive, but that is up to the story teller. May she keep telling the stories. Thank you,Lynn

Karina, Whitby ON


I love the Pattersons! I read it everyday here on your website. It's the first thing I look at - I am always wondering what is happening next! I am so excited about the wedding!! I couldn't wait for them to get back together. It's saddened me when Grandpa had his heartattack on Saturday. I really wanted him to attend the wedding. Thank you so much for the entertainment that you provide everyday!

Debbie C, Charlotte NC


I love the strip, been reading it for as long as it has been around.

Elizabeth makes a beautiful bride. Don't let Grandpa Jim pass without the family seeing him on last time.

We lost my father in law in early Feb 2008. my husband and kids (ages 25 and 22)got to spend time with him before he passed. It truly helped them when he left us. I got to talk to him on the phone, so even hearing his voice helped.

Grandpa should see Elizabeth in her gown since it was her grandmothers gown.

I love this strip and will read it through all of the changes.

Some of the things that happened in the strip I can relate with losing a dog, growing older etc.

THANK YOU!!!!

PS I miss Farley!

Tina, Oxford CT


Wow, Saturday's strip...my only thought is- Liz pushed up the whole wedding so Grandpa could be there. Does anyone truly think that she is just not going to notice he is not there?? I would notice.

Rachel, the Netherlands


Now that Elizabeth is getting married, what new is going on in April's life. I would like to see something new and exciting happen for April besides her band-something surprisingly way different.

Jean M, Stevens Point WI


Grandpa's illness struck a chord with me this week. My mother had a stroke on my wedding day. She was ill during the service but didn't say a word so she wouldn't ruin anything. She didn't show the effects until later, and by then I was married. She even managed to button my dress. This is one of the many reasons she is my hero, and thankfully she is still my best friend. As the old cliche goes, life is what happens when you are making plans.

Robyn, KY


I realize that the wedding strips have all been written and sent to the syndicate, so nothing I say now can change them. I just hope you didn't opt to go with the soap opera cliche of the bedside hospital wedding. It would be so sad to see a once-innovative comic end its modern-day strips on such a predictable note (not to mention unrealistic - having worked in several hospitals I can tell you that weddings can occur in the hospital chapel but never in the CCU or ER!).

E R-P, Ann Arbor, MI


Today I see a woman who may be losing the man she loves worrying about her step family enjoying the start of another couple's life together. Iris is amazing! To answer one of the other posters from yesterday, Deanna may have chosen to be helpful in other ways rather than being a bridesmaid. I have 5 sisters in law and have chosen not to be an attendant at the weddings for two of them. I sang for one and read Scripture for the other. I was still involved, but the bridesmade position was left open for girlfriends

Maria, MI, GR


I have been an avid fan of the strip for years and am saddened to know that the strip is ending.

Poor Elly and Phil ...!! Do they belong at Elizabeth's wedding, or their Father's bedside?

Crises like this one throw things back into perspective, and concerns like the compatibility of ribbon colours with flowers, or whether the wine is to be "poured, or put on the tables" seem so very trivial...

The gallantry of Jim and Iris shines out like a star. Maybe if it's "just" a Heart Attavk things will work out....a third Stroke would be almost certainly fatal for Jim !

By the way, I for one won't be sorry to see FBorFW "Begin All Over Again". Wasn't it the incomparable T.S. Eliot who wrote:

"...the End of all our Exploring

"Will be to come back to the Place we started from,

"And Know it, for the First Time."

Anna M, Winnipeg


Reading the strip the past couple of days brings back sad memories for me. I got married in 1995 and just two hours before I was to walk down the aisle with my father, he suffered a massive heart attack at our family home, where the bridal party was getting ready. My mother accompanied him to the hospital and insisted that we continue with the wedding. The doctors were able to bring him back. Unfortunately, due to lack of oxygen to his brain he suffered brain damage and was in a coma until his death 2 months later.

I got married that day without my parents by my side. It was supposed to be the happiest day in a bride's life, but it was my saddest.

Please don't write Liz having a similar experience. Let Jim recover enough to at least be able to get on a telephone and wish his granddaughter a happy day.

Rosie B, Troy, MI


What is it with those people criticising Liz for moving back to her home town and her home family and marrying her home town man? Surely, one of the sad things about our fragmented society is the lack of extended family support so many young families suffer from? Here we have Lynn giving us that lovely, loving network that John and Elly have brought together, of people who can care for and support each other. Having lived away from my siblings, nieces and nephews and greats and great greats for most of my working life, I am now looking forward to moving back to within easy travelling distance of them. Families are so important and what Lynn has given us in the Pattersons is a couple that cares for their parents, their siblings, their children and grandchildren, their friends - and their pets.
Thanks, Lynn, for reminding us that not all families are war zones or disaster areas. Bless you.

Shirley C, North Sydney Australia


How on earth is phil going to act like nothing happen?

Bridget Q, New Glasgow NS


Anyone who thinks it's unrealistic that so many people made generous contributions to Liz and Anthonys wedding just don't get it. I love this spin; it reminds me of "It's a Wonderful Life". Ordinary people who have been helpful and supportive to their friends and community realize just how much they are appreciated with the outcome of support they receive when they need it. John and Elly helped Gordon build his business into a booming success, when Lawrence outed himself, instead of Mike turning his back on his lifelong friend, he and his whole family accepted him without judgement. The Pattersons live a good life and share their good fortune and happiness with their friends and loved ones. Why WOULDN'T their friends share with them?

Becky H, Attleboro MA


Sorry to see Grandpa Jim in the hospital-- we are losing those WWII vets at far to fast a pace. However...

Lynn is lucky not to have been to a hospital in the past decade or so, or Canadian medical care is stuck somewhere in the middle of the 20th century. They don't use oxygen MASKS anymore-- they use clear plastic tubes with little nose clips that go right into your nostrils.

Nell, Shorewood WI


I simply cannot believe that you would have Grandpa in the hospital on the day of the wedding. He was the reason for the hurried preparations! This is just the worst!!!!!

Anne, South Carolina




Take me back to the top!

Monday August 18, 2008
August 18, 2008


The wedding was going so well, and now this, I feel bad that Grandpa won't attend the wedding. I was looking forward to it. Although I am not a big fan of Anthony and Liz as a couple, I was warming up to the idea with their exchanges lately. Just so sorry that her grandpa won't be there to see her. If he dies and they put him in "ghost" form with his first wife her grandma with him I will weep. That's for sure.

Patricia B, Wilmington, MA


This is the first time I have ever come here to leave my thoughts. Though I have read FBorFW religiously for years. I an saddened to see the original strip come to a close, but everything must end. However, there will never be a strip like yours that is able to be serious, humorous, sad and silly at the same time. As a parent with children about the same spread as Mike and Liz, as a pet lover and having a variety of friends, this is a strip we can relate to.

Now with Grandpa's heartattack the day of Liz's wedding, I am remembering back to the day my youngest was born - the same day my grandmother died. I went in for an emergency induction the day she made a turn for the worse. She died after my mother told her she had another granddaughter. I was not able to make the funeral or say goodbye. My sister and her newborn were able to see her one last time.

I also remember being told she may not be able to attend my wedding - though it was not due to medical reasons. She was an alcoholic going through rehab. But my father was diagnosed with a cardiac issue and faced major surgery shortly after walking me down the aisle.

Well, my youngest is pestering for a game with mom before we go shopping. Sunday mornings - quietest at the grocery store!

I would love to see you go back even further to when Elly and John were young and dating.

I look forward to the change! It is not always a bad thing.

Karen P, Virginia


Thank you, thank you, thank you for making my day for the past 30 some odd years. Like many of your other readers, my family has grown up with Elly and John's too. I've laughed and cried (especially when Farley died). I even enjoyed your work on the walls of the bathroom in the Comic Museum in Westchester, NY.

Best wishes to you in the years to come. And I can't wait to start enjoying the story all over again.

Christine M, Putnam Valley, NY


Sorry to see the strip end, but I too have issues with Liz just being totally unable to move more than ten minutes away from mommy and daddy, to strike out on her own, but part of women being liberated is that they get to choose their own destinies I guess.

I also hope you don't kill off grandpa, a heart attack on the wedding day is enough for any drama queen I think.

Your strip has been great over the years, you are getting a little maudlin at the end but you deserve to end it however you wish.
Best of luck to you.

Gertie N, Illinois


Hi Lynn, you could not believe how pleased & excited I was to read that you will not be retiring after all. I have all of your books & read your column everyday. I have had the pleasure of meeting you several times & having my books signed by you. My daughter started me out when she was a student at Nippissing University in North Bay. I find my life parallels you in many ways. I was saddened to read in the recent strip that Grandpa has had another heart attack. i guess life is not perfect even though we would like it to be. Good luck in your personal life & welcome back. !

Twyla W, Englehart ON



Tears in my eyes again this morning after seeing the chaos and John providing a space of quiet for Elly.
Darn it, I don't want this to end. I so do not (yeah, I know that's so articulately put).
But as a writer myself I know there is a time when I have to say good bye to my own characters as well and forge on.
So, again, Lynn and company, thank you, thank you, thank you for all the years of smiles and tears, moments of "gee, I know exactly how she or he feels" and new insights into life.
Now, does anyone have a Kleenex?

Mary Louise, Iowa


I've always enjoyed the strip and come to love the characters.
I'd never been to this site, I came to find a special strip to send to friends. The discussion between Gordon & Anthony on the way to the wedding (8/13) really touched me. When Anthony asked Gordon "Hypothetically - would you get married again?", he answered Yes & No - for the same reason, because he's had such a good marriage. (Obviously his marriage is still ongoing but it was a hypothetical question.)
My husband was killed tragically in a car accident one year ago this month. We had 24 great years together. Now I'm 48 years old with a lot of life still ahead of me. Gordon voiced my feelings about dating and remarriage so clearly.

Amy K, Orlando FL


Come on, Lynn, why couldn't U have awaiting until the wedding was over, before grandpa hit the sheets, again?
This may be it is in the real world, butt this is supposed to be a comic strip.
Otherwise, thanks for a neat strip.

Don H, Naples FL


Reading Saturday's strip about Jim having a heart attack was an incredibly poignant moment. I can't help being impressed time and again about how emotionally invested I am in these storylines and characters.

I did have a thought after reading this strip. You're definitely right that dealing with the darker and sadder elements of life is difficult to do with just four panels a day. However, you have the talent and the deepness to convey such very important concepts and themes. Have you thought about seizing those strengths and writing a graphic novel or novels about the Pattersons moving forward? You'd still have to deal with the hard issues like death of a patriarch, but I'd say that's actually one of your strengths and one of your greatest values to the world.

You could even skip a bit of time and write a graphic novel focusing on April set beginning four years in the future or something.

May not be what you're looking for in doing with your life, but after reading the heart attack strip, it was such a strong idea in my mind that I felt I really had to pass it on.

Best wishes and happiness to you. (If you really do find you're bored, you could work on the rights to release a dvd version of the animated series -- I've only ever seen the credits).

Elizabeth, Austin TX


My dear Canadian writer friend: Well, you did it again. Your column made me teary eyed. 8-16-08, grandpa didn't want to spoil Elizabeth's day. Touching! Lynne- keep up your fine column. bless bless bless

Mike D, Las Vegas NV


First time ever on this site but had to comment after reading today's strip and the fact that the wedding day will be ruined with the failing health of grand dad. Why couldn't he have attended the wedding and then had another heart attack if that's the direct you are wrapping this up. Going out on a cheey note would much overweight the imminent problems this latest episode is leading to.

Stev, Toronto


Congratulations to Lynn for a very enjoyable strip. I have enjoyed the Canadian flavor in a typical family history. I will miss it, as I do Calvin and many others, but cartoonists have to move on just like the rest of us. I perused your letter list and was bemused by the intensiy of some folks' feelings about a comic strip! But I guess that's a measure of your success, Lynn. One thing puzzles me. Why are so many worried about Elizabeth's marriage to a divorced man making her a fornicator when it seems she was already that when she lived with a guy for a while in college? Is there a theology-warp here somewhere? I think, Lynn, you have expressed in your story line the true nature of repentance in as nonsectarian way as you could. Congratulations again and good luck.

Dick, Arizona


Sure enough. When the whole wedding storyline started I said "What you want to bet, that she has Grandpa die or have another illness on Elizabeth's wedding day" Wish I could have found someone to take the bet. If a parent can have a favorite child a cartoonist can have a favorite character and it sure isn't Elizabeth. She was the one who did the dangerous stupid stuff like smoking and had the horrible boyfriend who preyed on her nature "Erick" and who lived with him without being married and got stalked and assaulted and now Grandpa gets to die on her wedding day. Spread it around a little.

Carol, Georgia


I almost cried when I read Saturday's strip. I cannot believe that you would give Jim a heart attack on the day of Liz's wedding. The only reason she was getting married so quickly was so her grandfather could be there, and now that won't be possible. People may have been upset with your strips over the last few months, but this will surely alienate many of your readers.

Jaime M, Etowah, North Carolina


NO! NO! NO! Please do NOT let Grandpa die on Eliabeth's wedding day!! I was so upset when I read Sundays column and realized he would not be at the wedding. I know this strip touches on real life but just once couldn't we have a happy ending?

Beth M, Toronto


East for John to say, "It's as simple as that." All he has had to do is stay out of the way and look like a dork in his tux with the teal bowtie. I work with color all the time and this scheme is awful. Then Elly chose to wear light blue on top of it. Mira looks more becoming in her beige dress. The flower girl dresses have no style. The bridesmaids dresses are styled very nicely. The bride - lets just say the dress redo is a big bomb. Deanna's dress was so absolutely beautiful. Since this wedding is going to happen (I truly wish it wasn't.) why couldn't Liz be in something just as beautiful. Her dress is so unattractive, it looks exactly like it is - a homemade attempt at remaking and alteration.

Marsha, Reno NV


Hello Lynn,


I'm 28 Years old. My mother use to read me your strip since I was a little girl. We would buy your books and read each one like we hadn't seen them in your strip every day. I love seeing everyone grow old with me.
Which is why I'm so sadden to see that they will no longer be growing old.


I want to know what happens to Elizabeth after she gets married. What will become of April? And everyone else? I feel like I'm loosing a family tie.

I didn't like the new 'hybrid" that had come out recently but was ok with it as long as new strips would be coming out.
I'm very disappointed to know they will no longer be my age.

Debra, San Francisco CA


Years ago, when Farley died my best friend was as upset as if it were her dog who had died. She said you didn't have to do that. I told her you did.

I've loved reading FBoW and loved the way the mundane events of my own family often appeared in your strips. I didn't realize until I read it here that you are wrapping up the story. I'll miss it, of course, but I just wanted to drop a note to tell you I've appreciated all the laughs and I wish you well in your next endeavor.

Rosemary F, Georgia


You moved up the wedding specifically so Granddad could be there, and now you give him a heart attack and he can't be there... That SUCKS, Lynn!! True, real life is full of unfair things like that, but you are in FULL CONTROL of the FBorFW universe, and you just sucked the hope of the "FB" part out of it for all of us, the fans, and left us with the "FW". Jeez, you could have at least let him die on his way back home from the wedding, in a limo, wearing a tux, with the happiest, most contented feeling in his heart a granddad could ever have. Thanks for the major buzz-kill...

...but I still love the strip... grumble, grumble...

Mike E, CA


my wife and i have been reading your strip for almost 18 years. elly and my wife were pregnant togther.april and matt are 17. matt is autistic. april befriends a mentally challanged girl. i love the strip. the pattersons are real. please keep april on course its a great message. when worlds collide. thanks again

Joe S, Long Island NY


I was greatly saddened when I read that FBorFW is ending so soon. I understand that all good things must end, but I will truly miss seeing my Canadian friends each morning in my newspaper. That being said, I could not believe my eyes when I read of the latest plot twist of Grandpa Jim being felled by another heart attack the day of Elizabeth's wedding. My mouth dropped open and tears came to my eyes. Grandpa, of all people, should have been at the ceremony to see Elizabeth in Marian's dress and hear April sing. What were you thinking?

Mary P-O, Fishers, IN


Lynn, I have been a longtime "invisible neighbor" of the Pattersons, and as we all near the time of moving away, I was brought to silence (I mean that as a compliment) by your decision to include Grandpa Jim's latest crisis in the flurry of activity surrounding Liz's wedding. So like real life.

As you enjoy your retirement, I hope you never think of yourself as a cartoonist. You are an artist whose work has added to the world's store of goodness and beauty.

Norm A, Twin Cities Minnesota


Lynn,

Argh! NOOOO! Starting OVER?!

Just when Liz was getting a life, and April was almost at university?

Are we EVER going to find out of April realizes her dream of becoming a veterinarian now?

What about Liz and Anthony having children?

What about Michael and Deanna's children growing up?

Am I going to have to wait ANOTHER 20 years to find out all these things?

FBorFW was one of my favorite comics, because the characters aged, they grew, they made mistakes... and now I have to go back to the beginning again?? PLEASE say it ain't so!

Ravensun, Maryland


Wow, I've been following the comic for a while now. You're doing a great job. (But I don't like the week or even longer flash backs too much.) Lot's of turns and twist, some making me laugh, others causing me to think about my life and still more causing me to almost tear up. I'm out of town and have to hit the site to get my 'strip fix'.

I'm not sure what new material you will be going to, but I will miss the Patterson family if they are no longer the center of the strip.

Keep writing, I enjoy it greatly.

J.C.H. Sr., Henrico, VA


My family and Elly's have grown up together. I've shared heartaches with Liz's love life and felt apart of Elly's working years. And who can forget the birth of April? And now... the wedding..... Sigh. Good luck with the "new beginning"

Sue H, Washington State


I was thrilled to read the newsbite from Aug. 15 that instead of truly retiring, Lynn will be "renewing." Just as I grew up with Elizabeth the first time around, now my two boys (a baby and kindergartener) can grow up with the Patterson kids all over again. Hooray!

Amy, Livonia Michigan


I was so sad when I read Saturday's strip and the Grandpa was in the hospital. I really wanted him to see Elizabeth walk down the aisle. It meant so much to both of them. Actually, it meant so much to me. My family will be having a wedding next August and hope that my dad will make it.

Sue, Silverdale WA


I am an expat living in Tokyo right now and your strip is one of the things that keeps me connected to home.

You are the first comic (and sometimes the only one) I read each day.

I am already mourning the loss of the future of April, Michael's kids and Liz's life with Anthony.

However, thank you for so many years of creative strips that have always brought a smile to my face and even laughs.

You are very talented and I wish you the best of luck on your new endeavor!

Wendy, Tokyo Japan


I still remember Lynn telling us that Paul was Mr (W)Right for Liz. I'm still very sad about the end of that relationship.
However, I've always loved FB or FW and will miss the new storylines terribly. Good luck in your retirement Lynn.

Pauline S, Brisbane Australia


Oh, dear. It looks as if Liz's ride isn't going to be the smooth one she hopes for. It also looks like she's about to deliver a speech about what's really important as she and Anthony get married at Jim's bedside. I just hope that she, unlike her parents, accepts some personal responsibility for letting things snowball out of control. After all, they didn't tell people to do all this but they also didn't tell them not to.

Paul J, Saint John NB


Seeing that Jim is in imminent danger of not making it, I had to write, because this is very close to me right now.

I can't imagine not having been there when I lost my grandma. Granted, I wasn't holding her hand - I was across the room, huddled up on a chair under a flannel sheet I borrowed from one of the nurses, because it was past midnight and I was freezing. I was watching her struggle to breathe (she had lost consciousness as she had gone into septic shock, and her lungs were filling with fluid), and I'd been crying for hours at that point and I was already drained (and I'm crying again, thinking of this). At that point, though, I didn't care - my world had been reduced to this one tiny, cramped hospital room, and I couldn't bear to leave it. In fact, I was so glued to that chair that when I got home, it finally hit me that I hadn't gone to the bathroom or eaten anything in about 15 hours, but I'd been so numb before that that I'd never even noticed it.

There's just no way I could have been off getting married, or on a vacation, or just...oblivious to the fact of my grandmother's imminent death at that time, and if my mom had not called me that day in the middle of my workday because she "didn't want to disturb me at work," I'd have been very upset. I have no regrets about running out of work that day. If I hadn't been given the choice (especially considering I am an adult, and very well capable of making that decision for myself), I'd have a hard time forgiving my mom for it.

All of this hits very, very hard right now because this past Sunday would have been my grandma's 79th birthday, and next Sunday it will be one year since she's been gone. None of this rings true to me, and reads, in fact, like a very dysfunctional family dynamic, with EXTREMELY misplaced priorities, at work.

I can't put into words how disgusted I am at this. Lynn could have ended Jim's life quietly and with some dignity in the aftermath of his second stroke LAST YEAR, and ended with a well-planned-out wedding to someone who was NOT Anthony. There was time to develop a great (if somewhat whirlwind) relationship with someone interesting. I mean, if it absolutely had to end with a wedding.

OK, maybe real life is rarely that neatly wrapped up, but as Lynn has so very graciously pointed out to us, this is her "fantasy bubble," and she does have control over how the story goes. There's no excuse for a family who was purportedly so close to their patriarch NOT to be there in his final moments, regardless of his wish not to "ruin" anyone's day. Realistically speaking, that's not really the kind of wish you usually honor.

I didn't necessarily get along with my grandma all the time - she was a strong personality and so am I, and we clashed considerably in my teen and young adult years. We didn't have a perfect relationship and I admit that. But she always told me I was her favorite, because I was her "first" grandbaby (technically I was the second grandchild, but I was the first she knew from birth - the one before me was born out of the country).

All this by way of saying, Liz did not have to have a perfect (or even ultra-close) relationship with her grandfather to love him. But to not be there in his last moments of life, even to keep it from her that he is ailing - I'm sorry, that's just wrong.

Marisol, CA


I'm begging for a blow out or something to stop Liz from getting to the chapel. Anthony is to wishy washy and clingy for her. She needs a man to make her feel alive not one to turn her into the sterotypcal ball and chain. Bring Warren back.

Zelda G


here we are finally getting to Anthony and Elizabeth's wedding and Grampa Jim has another heart attack. What I found interesting is that Uncle Phil tells Elly not to tell Elizabeth what is going because they don't want to ruin her day. Don't you think she will notice that her Grampa and Iris are not there at the church when she is wearing Gramma Marion's gown? I would have noticed that someone who was suppose to be there didn't make it especially from my family. Hey I even noticed a family that was invited to my wedding come in late.
Lynn I will definitely miss your writings in FBorFw....it is one of my favourite comics. Happy retirement (either semi or full)

Susan, Welland ON


The wedding scenes before the actually wedding are lovely and I am glad to see more focus on the bride. However the only thing I don't like about the unfolding occasion is the fact that her Grandfather won't be there or maybe the wedding might come to a screeching halt when Elizabeth notices that her grandfather is not there. (The biggest reason the wedding was rushed. I can't forget was because of him so naturally the bride will be looking for him.) Maybe the wedding will end up in the ER where her Grandfather is so he can witness it too?? Now that would really be a touching story for all to see as She say's I do to Anthony with her Grandfather witnessing it even if in a hospital bed!!!! I hope that is what your leading too. would be very heart touching.

Kimberley R, Arizona


While I think it was no surprise that Grandpa getting sick again was going to be the plot twist this week, I am really disappointed that you chose to go ahead and not tell Liz. Is she not a mature enough person to hear news that someone she cares about (in fact, the reason the whole wedding is so soon) has fallen very ill?

What about April? She and Grandpa have a very close bond, while she and Elizabeth hardly ever spend time together. Don't you think she would rather go to her Grandpa? Especially if there was concern that he wasn't going to make it this time? Can you imagine the pain and anger April would have if she could have had time to say goodbye, if she had only known?

Of course, I'm sure there will be a sudden switch of venue, with a small, cramped wedding in the hospital, despite the fact that my guess is a heart attack patient shouldn't have excitement of any kind, happy or sad, in their hospital room.

FBOFW has been my favourite cartoon since I could read. I have to admit that you started to lose me with the Liz/Anthony romance, though. It has lost its former realism in a series of bad puns. Best of luck for the future work, in whatever form you decide to pursue.

Taylor, Ontario


You've written the children much too mature for their ages before, but Robin saying "who gets to go in the first limousine" and Merrie stating "when do we get started" takes the cake! Since when are two- and four-year-olds aware enough to care? Why didn't Francie just chime in "will someone fix my makeup, please?"

Kelly, Newnan GA


Thank you for years of reading a comic strip that has felt so very real - so very real that folks definitely respond just like we do in real life! We are all different - thank goodness - and we all make choices that some do not understand - and real life frequently takes many twists and turns. Thank you for having the courage to express your views in a fashion that has captured us all. I wish you well in your "next life" ... I've had a few myself!

Suzanne, Nova Scotia


Thank you for all the wonderful strips. With your strips and my opinions I have helped my grandchildren understand subjects that were difficult and controversial. Between the two of us, hopefully my grandchildren will be accepting and more tolerant of that which they do not understand.
I am sorry your stip is ending. However May the good Lord give you the best retirement and happiest life ever.

Jules B, Catoosa, OK


You, Lynn Johnston, are truly magnificent. We've laughed, cried, gotten pensive and have drawn many, many parables from your wonderful strip over the past decades. During the planning of Elizabeth's wedding, we "fondly" recall the tribulations of our own daughter's weddings. You have manged to infuse all the emotions into us once again - only this time without the stress factor. I can't help thinking about Grandpa Jim, now that he has suffered another heart attack. But, know what? However it turns out, I know it may be a slice of reality.It may not be your typical happy ending, but it will be real.

Vincent Q, NYC


Well, Lynn, the general consensus in the office this morning regarding the 8/16/08 strip is that "You are Wrong" for throwing the curve of putting Grandpa in the hospital. Now that the scenes of the "Wedding" is being drawn out (no pun intended), we are being thrown a few unexpected twist developments. The office is still enjoying the strip though.

PM, NJ


Lynn, I have been a fan of For Better or For Worse for the past 4yrs. Thank you for the Pattersons, they're a joy to read every day.

Esther, NJ


I have lovedFor Better Or For Worse since it was first published in my local newspaper. Several of the strips over the years adorn my work space both at home and at work.

I find it comical that so many people have written on 'Coffee Talk' as if the Pattersons were real people. Make that I *used to* find it comical. It suddenly has become very real to me as well.

With Grampa Jim's heart attack on the day of Elizabeth's wedding, my excitement for Elizabeth and Anthony has simply plummeted! I thought that the decision to marry 'now' simply to have Grampa Jim be there for the wedding was not the best reason to get married, but I understood it to a small degree.

I know that the strip/story line is probably complete by now, but PLEASE, do not let Grampa Jim die on Elizabeth's wedding day! My own mom passed away just slightly over a year before my own wedding (and on the 50th birthday of one of her favorite nieces). I would have given anything for Mom to be there physically, but she was there with me in my heart and in spirit.

Life is tragic enough in reality without having to deal with such extreme mixed emotions from 'For Better Or For Worse'. It's sad enough to be losing the strip, so please, do not let Grandpa Jim’s life end with the strip as well.

Thanks, Lynn, and best wishes in all future endeavors!

FBOFW FOREVER!

Rus O, Massachusetts


I just have a brief question... why is Deanna not a member of the bridal party?

Jennifer, Ft. Lauderdale FL


Woah. Jim in the hospital, Liz getting married.. Half of me wants this to last as long as possible and the other half can't wait for each new strip....

Jessie, Trenton ON


I am a huge fan of the comic strip art form and FBOFW has always been one of my favs. Lynn's great art and story telling is one ofthe reasons I rush to open the newspaper.

I am a fraid I still dont understand what the future of the comic will be...Everyone in coffee talk says that it is ending but what I have read is that Lynn will be continuing the story but going back to the beginning. To be honest I have all the books that I have been collecting since 1984 and read them regularly so I am familiar already with all the old stories and can practically quote them. Lynn is a great story teller and deserves a break but I dont know that I want to rehash the Pattersons past in the newspaper. I wish she would go on to maybe do stories about Gordon & Tracy, Phil & Georgia, or trips to Crusanks we never got to see.I will stick with the strip because I love the characters and admire Lynn's work.

p.s. I think the wedding is wonderful but wish everyone would be there for the big day.

DM B, Alabama


I am utterly appalled that Liz is not to be told that her grandfather may be dying while she's saying her wedding vows.

I am even MORE appalled that April, the one Patterson who genuinely seems to love and care about her grandfather, is not to be told or given an opportunity to be with him in what might be his final moments.

If I were either of them, and I found out about this later, it would be the last time I ever spoke with my relatives who knew. This is absolutely deplorable. Lynn, the twist of Jim taking a sudden turn for the worse is great, but keeping it from his grandchildren is thoughtless and cruel.

Beth, Pensacola FL


Lynn, I was just so sad when I heard that you were retiring a few months ago--and so happy to read over the weekend that you had decided to continue to publish new strips! I've grown up with the Patterson kids, and would miss them so much. I love your strip--it makes me laugh and cry, and your characters are so real! Thanks.

Amber B, Minneapolis




Take me back to the top!

Friday August 15, 2008
August 15, 2008


Lynn:

I know I said that I wouldn't comment any more and let you finish the strip any way you wanted to. This is your world, it is your story to tell, regardless of what anyone else thinks. That being said, I have no comments on the way the story is wrapping up. What I have to say is about what I've been reading on Coffee Talk.

I am absolutely shocked at the outrage over the content of FBorFW. I was vocal with my opinion of Liz and Anthony's wedding, but that, I feel, is because over the years I see them almost as real people and I didn't want them making what I saw as a mistake. However, I have never, ever questioned the beliefs and personalities of the characters. Like life, people are diverse.

For years the comics have pushed the envelope on many controversial issues, covered adult situations, and talked about 'not funny' things. Doonesbury, The Boondocks, The Far Side, Calvin and Hobbes, etc... Homosexuality, war, racism, animals with guns, decapitated snowmen...the list continues. Every read a political cartoon? Cutting edge, poignant, some are not funny, but they do make you think, don't they? These comics and cartoons show a world that is much closer to real life than the standard comic strips. Topics that surround us every day. Just like real life, viewpoints different from your own are out there. They are refreshing in a page filled with the perfection and non-confrontational approach of other comics. It is a nice combination. Think the old comics were better? The Lockhorns, Dennis the Menace, Brenda Starr, and again, Doonesbury... Family comics filled with drunken lechery, family arguments, juvenile delinquency, an unmarried woman chasing a mys!
tery man around the globe, politics and religion... I guess it is true that the more things change, the more they stay the same.

One of the beauties of Freedom of Speech is that you are free to speak your mind and express your opinions. You also have the right not to listen to or agree with something expressed to you. You don't like something, don't read it, turn off the radio, change the station, etc. You don't like the content of a comic, don't read it. Would you rather have a newspaper, radio station, etc, that the government has controlled the content of and dictated the opinions it expresses? You have choice. Celebrate that freedom.

Real life is not perfect. Real life has confrontation. It has differences. It is ever changing. It is filled with beauty. It is filled with darkness. Life is a wondrous journey. Life is a difficult struggle. It is filled with joy. It is filled with grief. It is what you make of it, what you fill it with, and what you surround yourself with. Some comic strips are based on real life. They will contain many of these things, both good and bad. Don't fault the writer for following the nature of life and society.

I am a Roman Catholic. I grew up in a conservative family. I was a science major is college and believe in both religious teachings and scientific theory. I am a Republican. I am married and have children.

I believe there is little enough happiness in this world. If two people, regardless of their race/religion/sex, love each other, it is not my right to judge. That right does not belong to me. I believe the church teachings that love is unconditional. Does that make me a bad Catholic? I will only find that out in the next life. Weddings take place without religious rites all the time. They are civil. They are recognized by the government, but not by some churches / temples / mosques. Marriage is no longer strictly a religious rite. Religion no longer strictly dictates what marriage is. Civil marriages are legal, and that is that.

I love the fact Lawrence is back in the story. I have no qualms with his homosexuality. I have always wondered how his life was going and wished he was included more. My pre-teen children read the comics. Homosexuality was a topic I really didn't want to cover this early, but it was a good opportunity for my kids to hear about it from me instead of from friends, teachers, or Hollywood. If there is something "controversial" in the comics, either I prepare for the discussion or take that comic out. You don't want your kids reading certain topics in the comics I suggest you do your job as a parent and read them first and edit out what you don't want them to see.

FBorFW has been based on real life from the beginning. All the yelling, all the bratty things kids do, all the love, all the controversy, etc, is what happens in a real family. Let's not pretend and think our families were/are any different.

Thank you, Lynn, for many, many years of helping us laugh at and appreciate life. You have given us a great gift. Thank you for your years of work, sacrifice, and dedication. Your work will be sorely missed!

My best wishes for your retirement! Enjoy it, you deserve it!

Laura R, New York


When people ask about my second son's name, I had been in the habit of telling them it goes well with my eldest's (Arthur) as a King Arthur and Robin Hood kind of theme.

But the REAL reason I chose such a lovely name of Robin for my son, was because of the inspiration from Michael and Deanna's son.

I've been enjoying the strip since I was a teenager, 18 years ago and now, when people ask about his name I tell them FIRST, it was because of FBOFW.

Thank you!

Jen, Massachusetts


Lynn, thank you for all the years of this wonderful saga of the Pattersons and friends. I love the way the wedding is unfolding....this is the first online entry I view each day.

I will miss the strip but I am grateful and have wonderful memories so again I thank you. I think Anthony is the right choice for Elizabeth; she can still do her own thing and be a good wife and stepmother.

Geri, NYC


I have been reading For Better of For Worse for many years and I love following the characters' stories, but I must have missed something along the way. Yesterday's strip seemed to suggest that Gordon is no longer married. Did something happen to his wife? Gordon and Tracey are the only ones I couldn't find on your website.
Please let me know, and thank you for a lovely and fun family ride all these years! And the lead up to the wedding is wonderful....all the fun of watching the preparations with none of the stress!

Maggie M, Round Lake NY


[They're still married, Maggie, and have two kids and a business together.]


I've enjoyed FBOFW since the beginning, and have enjoyed reviewing some of the older stories. That is one of the things I've enjoyed very much is watching this family evolve over the years. The Patterson's had already found a place in my heart but little did I know that one day, I'd be thrilled that April went to music camp in Orillia and my husband spent the latter part of his teen years there. And still has lots of family up there.

I don't want the current storylines to ever end, but I think newer and longtime readers can benefit from the older stories!

Thanks for sharing a glimpse of a warm loving family and their friends with the world!

Debbie H, California


Like so many of those who have taken the time to comment on the strip, I grew up with FBOFW. I am older than the kids, younger than the parents, and always seemed to find something valuable in the situations that each and every character has experienced.

I was married the first time on the same day as Gord and Tracy - I still have a copy of the strip tucked in my keepsake book for my daughter to have when she is older. Like Anthony, my first marrage failed and I watched my child's father become more and more remote from her. Luckily, like Anthony, I found a fantastic "second chance", and like Elizabeth, decided to be married this summer. I hope the weather is as good for her event as it was for mine.

I have always enjoyed the ways in which Lynn has woven aspects of her personal life into the strip. While some readers find some of the recent strips unsettling (not surprising given that many papers have edited her work over the years and certain strips and story lines were not seen by all), I find it wonderful that she has very deftly shown the diversity of our society and the ways in which life ebbs and flows around our similarities and differences.

Congrats to Anthony and Elizabeth. While I am not in love with their colour scheme, I am so pleased to see them creating a family - one that looks an awful lot like mine.

I will be sad to see the strip end, but I will happily re-read those older strips that I enjoyed so much as a younger person.

All the best!

Maureen S, Brockville ON


Hi Lynn,

Yours is the only comic I read each morning and I have always felt that the storyline paralleled my own family. My son Adam is a writer like Michael, my daughter, Jenn, is a teacher like Liz. It is so coincidental that Liz is getting married now as my daughter is getting married tomorrow, Friday, August 15th...and so the parallel continues.

Thanks for making me laugh each morning!!!

Adrienne, Mississauga ON


Until I came to the website today, I didn't know the strip was wrapping up. I realized there were some "old" strips but figured Lynn just needed a vacation now and then.

In any case, I came to the website today to find a way to convey how much I appreciate the Liz/Anthony storyline. It's been a wonderful love story. Watching all the characters grow in real time, with the starts and fits of real life, has been such a hugely wonderful experience.

I also couldn't remember when the strip started--30 years! OMG!--but have followed it all this time and watched everyone grow. They are truely part of my family--such an odd concept, to grow so fond of figures drawn on a page that show up once a day. Sometimes I think--how can the kids be this old? How can April already be starting University? But then I look around and realize, time really has passed. . .

Thank you, Lynn, for creating another family for me. They ARE a part of me.

Chris, Central Illinois


Dear Mira,
Now that you've given candy to three rambunctious children under the age of 7 years old, it is now your duty to keep an eye on ALL THREE OF THEM! Make sure they behave, and stay put. When you run out of candy, You'll have to think of something to do. No one else will have candy, and they'll start whining at you. Good Luck!

Maybe Mira also has other things up her sleeve besides the sweets? Only Lynn truly knows what is in the brain of Mira Sobinski.

Lara B, Santa Ana


Thank you so much for these wonderful stories. I can see the steps that you are taking to provide closure to strip. I am enjoying how you catching us up with everyone while moving to the big event. It brings a tear to my eyes but happiness to my heart. Thank for the many years of joy and laughter you bought to me. I shall savor each and every strip til the end. Thank you so very much.

John, Michigan


If I begged and I pleaded would you change your mind about freezing the strip? PUUUH-LEESE? How bout Pretty Please?

Just had to ask:)(I truly understand your motivation for slowing down.) My 30th birthday is upon me and I'm pretty sure with you freezing the strip that I will consistiantly get older than Liz. No Fair! Can you "freeze" me to?

Best of luck with this new stage in life!

Jen, Nebraska


Does anyone else have trouble winning on Lynn's Pet Pile Up? I've been playing for a while and I still haven't won. I think it has to do with the colors. I can win on John's coffee break. Just wanted to hear how other players are doing. I shall preservere

Connie B, Chester IL


I'm very close in age to Liz, and like she did years before, I'm about to start off on my own great adventure. I'm moving halfway around the world to teach English in a culture that I don't belong to and where I don't speak the language.

And just like Liz, I plan to sever all ties with any friends and romantic interest to come back to my small town and marry the goofy boy I dated in high school. Thanks Lynn, for showing me that a woman is nothing without a man!

Run April, run. There's still hope for you.

Rinnie K, MS


I've read this strip for years, and although I haven't always agreed with the behavior of some of the main characters, nothing has disturbed me quite as much as Liz's decision to rush into marriage with someone so lame.

As a 26-year-old single woman, I resent the implication that someone my age should settle for an emotionally unfaithful, morally bankrupt, whiney little boy like Anthony. So Liz and Anthony dated in high school-- big deal! I had a high school sweetheart too- does the fact that I'm single mean I should hunt him down and fake a romance with him because at 26 I'm practically over the hill?

This isn't the fifties. Landing a husband is no longer the primary concern of most women my age. Why not portray Liz as a REAL role model? I can't think of a better way to wrap the strip up than showing Liz purchasing her first home BY HERSELF. That would be a real accomplishment to be celebrated, and would send the message to young girls that happy endings don't have to include a walk down the aisle.

Sara M, Long Island NY


I am, like many other readers, looking forward to the wedding. But I am also excitedly awaiting what will happen in the following week!
Also, I enjoyed what Mira did on Thursday-- she is the FBOFW character that I love to hate...

Wesley M, Minneapolis MN



I have loved this strip and will miss it terribly. Thank you, Ms. Johnson, for sharing your talent with me. It has been a very bright spot of my morning for years and I am grateful to you for it.
Sincerely,

Fr. Daniel S, St. Francis of Assisi Church


Hello! I just wanted to throw this out there:

I am not sure where the myth originates, but rice is not harmful to small birds and animals. Most birds diets consist of grains, and uncooked, milled rice will not harm them one bit.

It can be of some harm to humans, however. Rice spilled onto hard steps or dance floors can cause a nasty tumble.

Kris, US


I'm in total shock and disbelief!!
I have been reading this comic strip for years. I feel like someone has just died. I had not known until I started reading comments and people were saying how sad it was going to be when the strip ended. I was like, what are they talking about...END? No way!!! Then I read Recent News Articles and my heart sank to the floor. What will I do without my favorite family. I loved watching Elly get older (like me) and c/o about her face and her body just like I do. I'm just totally blown away. I want it to go on forever. I want to see April grow up and marry. I want to see Elizabeth's new life with her new husband and stepdaughter. New grandbabies for Elly and John......It's all too sad. This comic was the one thing constant and now that too will be gone. But I do hope Lynn the best. And I really have been enjoying the old stuff. The reason I started reading it in the first place.

René San Antonio, Texas


What is suddenly happening with kids ages in this strip?

I've heard a rumor that April is going to be skipping her senior year of High School and entering University in the fall! It has never been even hinted at that before that she was so ahead of her grade level in High School, so a sudden mention of it now will inevitably come across as a quick hack retrofit.

It was already puzzling when Gerald mentioned (this past April) about summer touring and then deciding not attend Uni, since every loyal reader of FBoFW knows quite well that April and her friends still have a year of High School left to go anyway, and such a decision would be premature.

In addition, in the Thursday strip, Francoise appears as larger than and at least as old as Merrie (who was born in 2002), when her birthdate is actually later than that of Robin (Francie was born in the strip in 2005.) Her immense vocabulary has already testified to what seems to be a wish to make Francoise no longer an early-stage pre-schooler in the strip by the time Elizabeth becomes a step-parent.

Attempts to change the well-known ages of child characters to be more convenient to an author's changing vision, especially when done so suddenly and last-minute in conjunction with time-dependent events, simply don't look good and bother the loyal readers who have quite a good grasp of the timeline of this strip - especially readers who are the parents of children of similar ages.

Colleen, Mountain View CA


I had such conflicting emotions when you were going to retire but I admired the reasons. I am very grateful for the reality and humor that you show us about our lives. I feel like the Patterson family is a reflection of so many things that can be right about this world but still grief does touch their lives. Thank you so much for sharing with us.

JaLinda, San Antonio TX


I feel I have missed something! I did not realise that the cartoon is closing down. I am shattered. I have spent my life compairing it with the strip. I too have three children, My Michael got his drivers license when Michael got his. My girls are so similar to yours, even having the younger teenage daughter.My hot flushes commenced the time of Elle's so I could relate to those strips too well! My Dad got ill when Elle's Dad did and every day I would open the paper to see how he was improving, unfortunatly mine did not and now hang on to hope for Grandpa. I think the wedding is beautiful, and and waiting in anticipation for the moment, but after reading some of the letters I am wondering what does happen? I will surely miss all of you and wish you and your staff all the best in their next endevours, thanking you so much,

Cheryl J, Noarlunga Downs Adelaide Australia


Lets see- Meredith was born in 02, Robin in 04, and Francoise in 05. Either Francoise is off the charts physically, or Robin and Meredith's growth is severely stunted. As others have pointed out Francoise appears physically and mentally way beyond her 3 years old - she seems more on a par with Meredith - even taller.

That aside, as you know I am totally disenchanted with this whole wedding. Anthony is a creep. Howard attacked Liz, Anthony came to her rescue and then in a matter of hardly an hour or two he attacked her with his pathetic wait for me until I am divorced speech. Elly and John pushed her towards a married man because they sensed he was unhappy, and even Gordon gave her the hint that she should step in while he was married. This is a middle-class, conventional family with good values? If they were concerned, they should have offered Anthony help and resources to try to save his marriage instead of breaking it up. Liz even flaunted herself in front of Anthony at his wedding to Therese. Mike was the only one who tried to question her about her feelings and about why she would attend that wedding, and even out and out advised her not to throw herself in front of Anthony and Therese. You know when a woman is in the situation that Therese found herself, she will seek out som!
eone who can validate her as a viable, attractive woman, not just a man's brood mare and substitute mother. Anthony could have easily come to a compromise with her wishes for a career, but he only wanted his narrow view of a life. Well, he is certainly getting his narrow view of a wife. I am so disappointed that the once vibrant, inquisitive, life-embracing Liz would end up so mediocre.

Guess I just expected more of a forward looking ending - hinting at the future of the main Patterson characters, consistent with the usual sensitive portral of their lives,rather than this Liz - Anthony saga and garish, contrived wedding.

Mary B, Titusville NJ


Thank you Lynn--Your work is worthwhile and artistic and has helped people. As Martha would say, it's been "a very good thing." Best to you!

Mary B, Titusville NJ


I find myself being highly amused by the!
people who are irritated because a) Liz is marrying Anthony; b) Gordon looks 45; c) Lawrence is gay; d) Anthony is divorced and that will make Liz a "fornicator". (Come on now, that's a bit much, even for a die hard Catholic. Many of us aren't Catholic and don't believe that. Even in real life, marriages are not made in heaven. The only marriages made in heaven spring from the pen of Lynn Johnston...and maybe Tom Batiuk! Marriages are made on earth by and between two all-too-human people and people make mistakes. And sometimes we make it work and sometimes we....get divorced! Happens to the best of us! Finally, though, Lynn....what am I going to do without my daily dose of "What are the Pattersons et al up to today?" May you have blessings abundantly, and don't forget that we all love you!!

Carla C, Missouri City TX


So the walk to the end of the rainbow is underway. Sigh.

YAY for A & E actually showing some semblance of affection and saying "I Love You". I was truly worried that they really were "settling" because everyone around them expected them to marry each other -- no more. =)

Over the last few days, I've enjoyed watching several of the secondary characters make what I presume are their final bows. IMO, the comments regarding Lawrence's remarks on the 6th are quite overblown. Lawrence's orientation has been presented matter-of-factly a number of times over the years, and gay marriage is a reality in Canada. And Mira bribes the kids with candy to calm them down (shakes head). ITA with the poster who made the remark about coloring books -- I could add "a DVD player and their favorite movie" as a way to keep the youngsters clean and quiet.

Looking forward (sort of) to the wedding! =)

Eileen M, Gainesville, FL, USA


I noticed in today's strip,Shawna-Marie(I think it's her) mentions that Liz was a bridesmaid at Dawn's and her weddings. Is there any
chance of us seeing Dawn and Shawna-Marie's husbands please? They are two lucky guys.

Andrew K, Adelaide Australia


I am so exhausted of some of the comments the other readers. I am an educated woman with a fulfilling career and, at the end of the day what I am most proud of is my place in our family. Why is it that in today's society we look down our noses at people who choose family and commitment over the possibility of adventure. I applaud Lynn in her effort to share the joy of two people, any two people jumping into the unknown adventure of sharing your life. I was also very upset with one reader's thought that there is something lost in Elizabeth raising another's woman's child. What a gift someone gives when they walk into a relationship and take on the role of parent to a child not born under their own heart, especially to a child who is missing that relationship with the biological parent.

It is wonderful to look back on a life filled with adventures and excitement. It is even more wonderful to look back on a life filled with love, tenderness, friendship, and family. Thank you, Lynn. Your strip has been a wonderful start to my day for years.

Kate, New York


Hi Lynn,

Wow! I sooo love your strip. It realy makes me unsettled to see other people's reactions. My goodness! We have all wished for 'the one that got away'. I am happy to see that Liz and Anthony are together and will be a 'united front' for Francie. I feel Anthony married Terese believing life would be good for she was interesting. She was indeed self absorbed and it is very easy to get sucked in. The poor boy tried to do everything right, but sometimes it's all wrong. Afterall, Terese walked away. What mother could leave her child! How wonderful Anthony could be such a Daddy to his little girl. Elizabeth will help to fill the void of an uncaring mother.

You have created a family that so many people love and enjoy. I will be sad to see it come to an end. I have seen similarities in my own life. I have an older brother, (by 2 years) and a younger sister (by 11 years. This strip has spoken to me while I was growing up and it speaks to me now that I have my own kids. Today's strip was hilarious! All parents know that bribery of some form (to include candy) is the best way to quiet children. Oh, it may not be the best solution, but indeed the first to come to mind. I think Mira was too funny and Deanna's expression said it all. Some parents (grandparents too), don't see that the 'fix' is not much better than the problem. Thanks for 'keeping it real'.

Be blessed. You have truly designed a family legacy that will go on even after you are done. I wish we could watch April grow up. (She reminds me of my sister!) Anyone who disputes your pictorials of life in an interesting family either never had kids or didn't know what to do with the ones they were given. I see my life growing up and I see shades of life raising mine.

Thanks for being a mother, a daughter and a friend through your strip! =D

Peace!

Martha K, Glen Allan VA

If god is merciful he'll stop this wedding before it starts. Liz was my favorate of the Pattersons but now that she's getting married to this clingy, obsessive boy in a mans body I can't stand who she's become. Without him she was a responsible REAL woman but around him she's like a dumb high school date that dosen't want to see reality.

Nichole, NC



Ok I am retired down here by the sea, but the thought of you retiring, knowing what a hole this will make in my life makes me want to cry. The strip and the characters are wonderful, and feel like my own family, but it is the poignant DRAWINGS that I will miss most of all. I dont know anyone else who can make a line sing or cry or dance like Lynn!!!!

Bev, Nova Scotia


I realize you can't answer every post, but maybe someone else knows (and I feel foolish for even asking). Can anyone name the entire bridal party for me? I'm having trouble placing all the girls!

Maria, GR, MI


[Sure - that's Dawn Enjo, Candace Halloran and Shawna-Marie Verano. You can learn more about the girls in our Who's Who section.]




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"For Better or For Worse" Sets Date to Start Over with New Material
August 15, 2008

Please make sure to read our most recent news update to learn more about Lynn's plans for FBorFW. Universal Press Syndicate has also released a video interview with Lynn on YouTube.



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Thursday August 14, 2008
August 14, 2008


To Lynn,

In honor of For Better or For Worse a poem to salute you and your hard work over the years that has touched each and every one of us fans...

When the sun is gently setting,
Your hands are gingerly resting,
May you and "For Better or For Worse" know that you are blessed with the autograph of God.

Much thanks to you. We love you so much and all the great artistic craft you give to us. Bless you always.

Sincerly,

Doreen of Farmington, NM


Hahaha! Today's (14 August) comic made me laugh aloud!

I think reading this forum is really interesting- particularly all the reactions to Lawrence discussing getting married to his partner. Its interesting to note how many americans just assume that Lynn is pushing a politcal agenda because gay marrige is a bit of a topic in the US these days, as opposed to merely stating a fact- in Canada, its allowed. Its allowed here too, and I don't feel my own marrige threatened by it. The argument that allowing homosexuals to get married threatens the sanctity of marrige is just silly. In my opinion, divorce is a far bigger threat to the sanctity of marrige. Two people who love each other is nothing but a blessing, not matter what the circumstances. What people do behind their doors is no ones business but theirs.

Kudos, Lynn! I hate this liz/Anthony wedding, but I still love the comic!

Rachel, the Netherlands


I was born in 1979, but FBOFW didn't enter my life until I was an older child and was finally able to read comics in the newspaper. And as a teenager I came back to the story when the paper was more regularly available in the home. And now as an adult I have been getting my daily injection of FBOFW knowing that it is available on the web.

I was kind of the age group of the first two Patterson kids so I kind of feel like I grew up with them, thanks to the real time development of the story. First I associated with the children and in the last few years I have come to associate more with the adults. And in future I will be relying even more on the stories (both past and present) as I will be having my first child in five months time.
Thank you Lynn for your unwitting involvement in my life... There are no other words to express how much I have enjoyed FBOFW over the years. It will be sad when FBOFW finishes, but never a regret - we will always carry the Pattersons (and friends) in our hearts.

Melissa G, Victoria Australia


Some candy to keep the kids clean and Calm? Is Mira that out of touch? This is one of the best strips I've seen in months. Too funny! Lynn hasn't lost her touch.

Jolein V, Oregon City, Oregon


Anthony may well be "a nice young man who just made a mistake" ....but there's a lot that's still very unclear. How for instance, did such a mild-mannered and unassuming fellow end up with a strong-willed, sophisticated and ambitious woman like Therese? How on earth did he persuade her to have a child, when she obviously didn't want one --- was Francie simply an "accident" ? And if Anthony secretly DID pine for Liz all the time was married, will his insecurities allow him to trust Liz if she says she no longrt has feelings for Warren?

(By the way I DO hope that the guests will not be provided with bags of "Rice" to throw on the happy couple. Raw Rice Grains can seriously harm the birds and small animals who may gobble them up. And Confetti makes a huge mess. Why not just have them throw Cheerios?)

Anna M, Winnipeg


As I have been following the Elizabeth-Anthony wedding strips, I have really been impressed with the way you have woven the friends/family of the Pattersons into the wedding preparations (Gordon with the limos, Lawrence with the flowers, Deanna and Mike finding Grandma Marion's dress, etc.). It is as though you have planned this storyline from the time the "kids" grew up, and you had Lawrence and Gordon choose careers that would one day complement the "wedding of the century," and having Deanna and Mike move into the Patterson family home played a part as well. The progression of the wedding is seamlessly a part of all that has gone on before. No part of that seems contrived. What a beautiful culmination of a lifetime of love, family, and friendship.

(By the way, I LOVE today's strip, where Grandma Mira thinks that it's HELPFUL to give a bunch of wild kids candy. Don't we all have someone in the family who would do the same thing! :-) )

Mona, Watertown NY


OMG that is so my motherinlaw .when the kids were little she alway always gave them mini marshmallows in a plastic bag in CHURCH!
Thay wanted them intstead of the cherrios i had, well sugar in the morning bing bing bing. bouncing kids and all the old people at church were not happy with it either. Bless their little hearts.

Cindy, Michigan


After reading over the old strips, I see that Anthony is a bigger jerk than I thought before and Liz is not far behind. If he still had feelings for Liz while he was engaged, he should have broken off the engagement instead of going through with his wedding. His wife knew what was going on and Liz knew that they "had feelings for each other" i.e. many hugs whenever they met, holding hands at a diner when he's married, etc. This whole situation is dumb, dumb, dumb. Now I see that A & E are both dumb and are made for each other. Proceed with the festivities and may they live in stupidity the rest of their days.

Carol K, Boston NY


Lynn:

There's so much I want to say, but I can't seem to find the words. Nothing seems to do justice to what it has been like having FBFW in my life all these years. When I read the final strip I think it's going to be a bit of a shock, and I know I will be crying over the lose of this wonderful comic. Thank you so very much...there's really not much else to say than that.

Jennifer, Washington DC


You know, I used to think Deanna was a reasonably intelligent person, all things considered. However, after today's strip, I find myself questioning that logic. She's dealing with three children, all under the age of six and one of whom -- her own son -- has displayed previous evidence of possible mental deficiency. Does she honestly think that just because she tells them to sit quietly and behave themselves, they're going to DO it? Children need to be stimulated and entertained. At least Mira distracts them in some fashion; giving them candy may not have been the absolute best solution, but she tried, which is more than can be said for Dee. Honestly...do the words "coloring book" mean anything to you, Deanna? You've been a mother for how many years now -- you should have some clue how to keep your kids busy and quiet.

Jessi, San Diego CA


Goodness...who thought up the lavender and teal color scheme? It is beyond hideous. Considering Mike used to work for a hip, pop-culture centered magazine, Weed, and award winning fashion photographer, is a family friend and they live near a major city, I wold think the Pattersons would have a clue about style. Did anyone up there open a recent bridal magazine?

This could have been such a stunning wedding and you could have left your readers with some gorgeous visuals--including making Anthony look handsome--not an easy task. But you put him in lavender.
As Charlie Brown would say, "Good grief."

Jeannie, NY


What is WRONG with Deanna's mother??? Candy?!?!?! Has she lost it? Or is she intentionally trying to make her daughter crazy? Candy is the LAST thing she should be giving the kids if she wants them to be clean and quiet. Jeez, that woman....

I love this comic strip! I can't think of another one that draws me in so much!

Nikki, Memphis TN


How wonderful things have turned out for Gordon. From terrible circumstances as a child to a solid marriage and family life and a golden business.

Frankly, if he was not already married I would have been happier to see Liz marry him. I half wish that Liz would see the Cranes and think "Wait! I am giving up a life full of interesting opportunities to raise someone else's child!" She had so much life in her in Mgitawaki. Now she looks like so many young women I have known -- dull but at least married before 30. Because as we know, if you are not married by then your life is over.

Nikki, NJ


Why aren't you addressing the misnaming of the Cranes in Monday's strip? I know people have to have written in and yet we have yet to have a reasonable response from Ms. Johnston. Are you scurrying to change the website and all the old strips to rename them as the Crows? That would be very sad if your retrofit the website to accommodate the mistake. Own up to it and move on.

Pattie, Michigan


[Yep, we goofed! If you go back to that strip today you'll see we've fixed our mistake.]


Dear Lynn,

I just wanted to thank you for the past two days' beautiful strips. I really hope that my father and I will have a moment like that when the time comes for me to walk down the aisle.

I'd also like to send out a huge thank you to those readers who have shared their stories in the past few days, particularly that of the family who lost their "Liz" in a car accident before her wedding. It brought me to tears! What courage they have!

Thanks for everything!

Sarah, Montreal QC


Hello Lynn,
It saddens me that one of my morning rituals will soon be coming to an end. One of the first things I do every morning, other than my first sip of Diet Coke, is to log on to FBorFW for my daily dose of the Patterson family. My faves are Elizabeth and April, and I adore strips about the pets.

I've really looked forward to Elizabeth's wedding, as I did with Dee and Mike's. Dee's dress was the most amazingly beautiful thing ever in your strip.
As a librarian and book lover, some of my favorite strip times were the story lines in the bookstore. I have tacked on my office bulletin board the strip of Elly in the snow on her way to Lilliput's to buy a book. Her thoughts are my thoughts on bookstores. I've also lived vicariously with you in the Canadian snow. We seldom have snow in Georgia, so seeing the piles of snow in your strip has been a delight.
I'm so glad that Elizabeth and Anthony found each other again. Seeing all the characters come together for their celebration is a great end to years of enjoyment. Thanks you!!

Valerie A, Flintstone GA


Things are winding up for the strip in such a wonderful way. I am enjoying the wedding preparations and the love shown for this wonderful family. Thank you for your dedication to keeping things real.

Denise M, Belleville


I have read with amusement all of the extremely conservative folks who are being hard on Lynn regarding her very mild inclusion of Lawrence and his personal life in the strip. As a practising Catholic, happily married for 13 years, I could also take great offense at Anthony, a divorced man, getting remarried. This is classified as adultery in my religion, and would make him an adulterer, and Liz a fornicator. However, I take a more practical and charitable view; while my religion doesn't support the re-marriage of those whose marriage has broken down, its ideals cannot always be reached by us mortals.

I also know that being gay is not a 'lifestyle' that you choose, it's like being left-handed, not evil, just the way some people are. 100 years ago lefties were demonized. Hopefully being gay will come to be viewed as just another trait, like eye colour or handedness.

Also, I don't think Lawrence would talk about his 'activities' in public, any more than Anthony and Liz do (and look at all the posters clamouring for some display of affection from them)!

Evelyn, Toronto ON


Please could we have more background on Gordon. What happened with his marriage to Tracy? They have kids right? I love this wedding theme. It's good to see past characters again. I bet that Anthony's mother came back into his life later on. I mean, the story about her leaving was Years Ago. Either way, he is a good man for Lizzie.

Sarah, Painesville Ohio



We all carry forward into our adult lives more of our parents' values and examples than we might usually appreciate, especially after the turmoil and experimentation often typical of adolescence and the very early 'twenties gets left behind.

While it may be argued the comic strip, to entertain, must continue to produce interesting plot lines or dramatic, even traumatic situations or scenes, the real-life goal of many adults is to live an economically secure life with a stable, loving partner.

I would argue Lynn does society a great service in demonstrating that conventional, middle-class values and behaviour meet most human needs very well most of the time. As a relative of mine, a combat veteran of WWII, once noted, "There are worse things in life,son, than occasional boredom."

Elizabeth is marrying a financially secure man she has known a very long time, a man fully approved of by her own parents, and looking to live a "middle class", married life not too different than the example set by those parents. More, this is a choice she makes as a fully mature, fully employed woman, who has "taken a look" at other possible life-paths, and rejected them for herself - not for others, it should be noted - because she seems to sense, long term, people do best inside their own ethnic and cultural context. In that sense, the break-up with Paul was probably best for both of them, especially thinking long-term.

I want to thank Lynn for the years and years of FBOFW. She has made a major contribution to Canadian cultur and fully represents the best of Canadian values, both to ourselves and the wider world. I do not know if Lynn has the highest level of the Order of Canada, but if not, it is high time it was awarded. When the strip does end, as with all good things it must,
wouldn't it be great if the apolitical Lynn was made the Governor-General of Canada!

Robert, Ontario


Hi!
It really amazes me the comments about Lawerence. While I have my opinions, I did not think it was adavancing anything. If you have followed the strip you know he is gay! So that might be a conversation between any two friends. The reality in Canada is what it is, the reality in the US is what it is. That is what they were talking about. I am really enjoying the Wedding preperations each day is great! Enjoy your retirement Lynn!

Fred, Michigan


I want to add my voice to the chorus of your many readers who have been grateful for your talent and time in creating this strip.
Thank you.

I had a thought today after I read where someone asked what to give Liz and Anthony for a "wedding gift"; how about a donation to the Farley Foundation? As a pet lover I'm gonna do that myself in the name of my beloved pets, but what better way to honor the joy that this strip has brought you by bringing joy to someone in our "real" lives.

Thanks again, Lynn. Good luck to you on your continuing journey.

ZB, Austin TX


Thank you Lynn for all of the wonderful years of entertainment the strip has provided.

I feel like a little girl anticipating Christmas. I can't wait for Elizabeth's wedding to unfold b