Lynn's Comments: I visit a dear friend regularly. She lives in a small apartment in an assisted living centre, and her main focus these days is on the local politics. I'm not talking about what's seen on the news; I'm talking about the day-to-day goings on in the building where she lives.
Lynn's Comments: When you are in very close contact with an established group of people, everyone knows a bit about everyone else. Cliques form. Relationships change as new residents arrive and others pass away.
Lynn's Comments: I've noticed that some of the residents in my friends' building get very few visitors. When I send or arrive with flowers and small gifts, things I consider simple and unimportant, people around her tell her how lucky she is. They wonder if it's her birthday or some other special occasion. This saddens me. Each one of these elders deserves a regular visit from someone who loves them. Small tokens of affection should be commonplace, but I've discovered that this is not the case.
Lynn's Comments: My first mom-in-law, Louise Franks, loved to play bingo. She was good at it, too, and could keep track of eight or more cards at a time. One night, she invited me to come along. Her advice to me as we entered the hall was, "Don't win. Nobody likes a first night winner." I guess her popularity, and mine, would be tarnished if I did!
Lynn's Comments: I have several friends, now, who are living in assisted care facilities. They each have small, comfortable apartments; they make their own breakfasts, but lunch and dinner is provided in a spacious, nicely decorated dining room. All three ladies admit that there is a very active social life going on around them, and it's not all provided by the entertainment committee.
Lynn's Comments: My friend, Anna, confessed that the elevator in her residence can be particularly challenging. As it provides an intimate space for a certain amount of time, proposals of a suggestive nature can be made quite discreetly between floors. She said it was not uncommon to see people get off the elevator on the "wrong" floor and stay there until morning.
Lynn's Comments: I had fun with this story. It occurred to me that in her later years after being alone for so long, Mrs. Baird should find a loving and considerate partner. Why not!
Lynn's Comments: When my marriage dissolved, I was on my own wondering if I would ever find someone to share my life with again. When I did go out with a gentleman, I always wanted to know if they met with my children's approval!
Lynn's Comments: Last year, I met someone with whom I have a lot in common. We have been seeing each other for almost a year, now. My children approve.
Lynn's Comments: I have friends who live in seniors' homes, and the number of connections made between the residents is heartwarming. What I never knew when I was young is that relationships can be exciting and fulfilling and romantic at any age. Thank goodness for that!
Lynn's Comments: I have a friend who was forced to break away from a man she dearly loved because his children were afraid she would get some of their inheritance. It was the saddest thing.
Lynn's Comments: As I wrote and drew this series, I was sure I was adding to the longevity of both these characters.